Dealing with a Bully in Nursery
We like to believe that all little https://teachmixer.com/coloring-pages/child-coloring-page-16697/ children are total angels, unable to hurt each other, however the sad fact is, they are. Although it is unlikely that you will find a 3-year-old stuffing his classmate into a cubby, unfortunately, pre-school bullies are very real and have many ways to inflict pint-sized classmates with emotional and physical damage.
In a preschool classroom, bullying, taunting, rejection, and even punching, kicking and other forms of bodily injury will definitely occur. And it's hard to remain calm and focused when offering your child support if your little one is the target of a pre-school bully. But you have to. Ok, here's how.
Although some kids are going to come out right and say someone is bullying or hurting them, others will say nothing at all, especially if it's a chronic issue. Possible signs of bullying your child include not wanting to go to school after always enjoying it, moaning before going to school about feeling sick or getting a stomach ache, or not answering questions about how school was.
You might also experience a sudden shift of mood. Your child may be sad or even angry. They could also send you a few hints, telling you that they are annoyed by a certain child or that they don't like everyone in the class.
Speak to them if you think your child is the victim of a bully. "Did Sammy hit you?"Did Sammy hit you?"What did Quinn do that is making you upset?"What's Quinn doing that makes you angry?
If the conduct is bullying (that is, constantly happening) or an occasional event, such as a tussle over a toy or a turn on the playground, is necessary to suss out.
Chat with other grownups
Speak to the classroom teacher or daycare provider if you believe your child is being bullied. Find out if the condition is known to them. If they're not (which is not uncommon; many bullies secretly do their best job), voice your thoughts and talk about what you think has been going on.
See what kind of perspective the caregiver provides and guidance. The problem can be taken care of by merely alerting them to what has been going on, as they can pay more attention to the situation. If you believe like nothing has been resolved after talking to the teacher, keep at it. Discuss the situation with the head of the school or day care.
Try talking to the parents of the other child if you think you should keep calm. This could be a minefield, so tread thoroughly. Do not suspect the other baby of anything. Just note that your child said they're not getting along with little Sammy and you wonder why. See what they're saying and pick it up from there. Don't turn the conversation into a fight and don't get angry if the parents of the other child don't understand the situation.
Why Preschoolers Still Don't Say the Truth
Offer help to your child
Give them a hug to help your child cope with a bully, and tell them that you are there to help. It will do wonders for their demeanor and self-esteem to let your child know that this is not something they have to manage all alone.
Although the preschool teacher is going to be the best ally of your child in the classroom, the fact is that while grown-ups are present, your little one is not going to be bullied. So if any kid bugs her, you need to help them figure out what to do. You might also play various scenarios, coaching them on what to do if it's not too upsetting for your kids.
You could give your child a few choices, including:
Ignore that. Often the safest course of action is no action at all, just walking away, if your child is being verbally teased. Since they are hungry for publicity, most bullies bully. If the bully, however, hits or otherwise physically harms your child, advise them to immediately notify the instructor.
Becoming courageous. As the bully begins to choose your child, advise them to stand up for themselves (but not fight back). A loud "Leave me alone!" will do miracles.
Saying to the instructor... If your child is uncomfortable, then make them inform the teacher, by all means. Some kids are concerned that they will be branded a tattletale, but inform them that this is an example where they need to enlist an adult's assistance.
The aim is to develop the confidence of your child while giving them a socialization lesson. Even as adults, people who are not good to us always have to deal with us. You will be supporting them throughout their life by giving your child these abilities now.
Ultimately, you might decide that you need to switch schools or classes if the situation is bad enough and you believe that not enough is being done. Hopefully, it's not going to come to that. But as parents, we're the best advocates of our children. The solution is to do what our child is best for.
In a preschool classroom, bullying, taunting, rejection, and even punching, kicking and other forms of bodily injury will definitely occur. And it's hard to remain calm and focused when offering your child support if your little one is the target of a pre-school bully. But you have to. Ok, here's how.
Although some kids are going to come out right and say someone is bullying or hurting them, others will say nothing at all, especially if it's a chronic issue. Possible signs of bullying your child include not wanting to go to school after always enjoying it, moaning before going to school about feeling sick or getting a stomach ache, or not answering questions about how school was.
You might also experience a sudden shift of mood. Your child may be sad or even angry. They could also send you a few hints, telling you that they are annoyed by a certain child or that they don't like everyone in the class.
Speak to them if you think your child is the victim of a bully. "Did Sammy hit you?"Did Sammy hit you?"What did Quinn do that is making you upset?"What's Quinn doing that makes you angry?
If the conduct is bullying (that is, constantly happening) or an occasional event, such as a tussle over a toy or a turn on the playground, is necessary to suss out.
Chat with other grownups
Speak to the classroom teacher or daycare provider if you believe your child is being bullied. Find out if the condition is known to them. If they're not (which is not uncommon; many bullies secretly do their best job), voice your thoughts and talk about what you think has been going on.
See what kind of perspective the caregiver provides and guidance. The problem can be taken care of by merely alerting them to what has been going on, as they can pay more attention to the situation. If you believe like nothing has been resolved after talking to the teacher, keep at it. Discuss the situation with the head of the school or day care.
Try talking to the parents of the other child if you think you should keep calm. This could be a minefield, so tread thoroughly. Do not suspect the other baby of anything. Just note that your child said they're not getting along with little Sammy and you wonder why. See what they're saying and pick it up from there. Don't turn the conversation into a fight and don't get angry if the parents of the other child don't understand the situation.
Why Preschoolers Still Don't Say the Truth
Offer help to your child
Give them a hug to help your child cope with a bully, and tell them that you are there to help. It will do wonders for their demeanor and self-esteem to let your child know that this is not something they have to manage all alone.
Although the preschool teacher is going to be the best ally of your child in the classroom, the fact is that while grown-ups are present, your little one is not going to be bullied. So if any kid bugs her, you need to help them figure out what to do. You might also play various scenarios, coaching them on what to do if it's not too upsetting for your kids.
You could give your child a few choices, including:
Ignore that. Often the safest course of action is no action at all, just walking away, if your child is being verbally teased. Since they are hungry for publicity, most bullies bully. If the bully, however, hits or otherwise physically harms your child, advise them to immediately notify the instructor.
Becoming courageous. As the bully begins to choose your child, advise them to stand up for themselves (but not fight back). A loud "Leave me alone!" will do miracles.
Saying to the instructor... If your child is uncomfortable, then make them inform the teacher, by all means. Some kids are concerned that they will be branded a tattletale, but inform them that this is an example where they need to enlist an adult's assistance.
The aim is to develop the confidence of your child while giving them a socialization lesson. Even as adults, people who are not good to us always have to deal with us. You will be supporting them throughout their life by giving your child these abilities now.
Ultimately, you might decide that you need to switch schools or classes if the situation is bad enough and you believe that not enough is being done. Hopefully, it's not going to come to that. But as parents, we're the best advocates of our children. The solution is to do what our child is best for.
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